If someone would have told me that "fitness is a journey, not a destination" five years ago, I would have probably laughed in their face.
“What do you mean it’s not a destination? My goal is to lose weight.”
That was my frame of mind any time I attempted to lose weight. I never gave any thought to the journey aspect. All I could ever focus on was a number on the scale. I had it in my mind that I needed/wanted to be a certain size.
It was not until I became a mother that my perspective began to change completely. I finally realized that all of the emotions/thoughts/feelings that I was going through directly affected those around me. It never occurred to me that my self-esteem issues could actually do more damage than I even realized; my issues could hurt those I love.
When we aren’t happy with who WE are, it is only a matter of time before other people start to feel the repercussions too.
Think about a time where you have been in a situation with a person who either talked negatively about themselves, or negatively about life in general. How did that make you feel? Chances are it brought you down!
Negative talk can bring down even the most positive of people. I think so often we don’t take the time to think about what we say and HOW we say it.
So, what exactly do I mean by fitness being a journey and not a destination? Well, I think that is actually an easier concept to understand than you realize. Life itself is a journey so why should our health be any different? It shouldn’t!
Getting healthy is not an easy task and it takes a lot of time for some people to get in the right frame of mind. You have to figure out by trial and error the regimen that works best for you. I hear time and time again stories of people who “fall off the wagon” and never get back on it. We live in a world of quick fixes. Usually, this is why so many people have a hard time sticking to anything for a given period of time.
A journey is a learning process. It takes time to get where we want to be.
I label myself a former “quit-a-holic”. I never would finish anything I started when it came to doing things for ME. Typically, I would quit out of fear and I would give up on myself before I really even got started. I let the fear control me. I let the opinions of others dictate what I wanted to do for myself.
The world of social media became my accountability partner. I began sharing what I was doing. I shared what worked and what didn’t. I shared my struggles and also my victories. It hasn’t always been easy to share all of this. I really had to step out of my comfort zone to help me stick to these lifestyle changes I was implementing into my life. A lot of people typically use social media as a tool to share the “highlight reels” of their lives. They want to portray that everything is awesome. While I think that social media is a great way to communicate, it is not always the best outlet for personal issues. HOWEVER, I have found it to be a great outlet to share my health struggles. Mainly because I knew others could relate. Especially us new mamas! I found myself in this new role, which not many of friends were in just yet. It was only natural for me to seek out other moms on social media for understanding of what I was going through.
Not everyone finds this as a safe way to share, and that is just fine. I share with the hope that maybe I can help someone in some way find the courage to start their health journey. I want women to realize that they don’t have to go through life without taking proper care of themselves.
We get caught up in the roles of mothers and wives and friends and daughters. We often take the time to do things for others before we take the time to do things for ourselves. That needs to start changing. It’s time for YOU to take control and not be afraid to begin your own journey.